Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Two Month Update

Today marks two months from Gotcha Day!  It seems like a lifetime and a day all at the same time.

Maia Faith has spent the last two months learning what it means to have a family.  Family is such a foreign concept to a child raised in an institution.

These kids don't ever leave me alone!

I must say, though, that despite the challenges these adjustments bring, she is doing fantastic.

She's now had two months of nourishing food.  Two months of laughter and eye contact.  Two months of touch.  It's amazing what a little love, a lot of hard work, and a faithful God can do in just two months.



For beginning stats, click HERE.  1 month stats can be found HERE.  Be on the lookout for an update on the rest of us soon as well.  :)

Size: 32 lbs, 3'3" tall.
Wears: 4t (pulling the waist in tight still)
Mobility: crawling, pulling up to her knees.  Will stand with support and come to a standing position on her own.  Will also take steps holding onto our hands.  
Eating: Mashed veggies, chopped chicken and ground beef, rice, yogurt, applesauce, etc.  She will also eat table food that has been finely chopped.  Her favorite food by FAR is yogurt.  We also have her on a toddler formula designed to help children gain weight.  We have discovered that she does not tolerate soy products or cow's milk very well so we are avoiding those.  We have added in a little bit of gluten and she seems to be okay with that, but we are keeping it minimal while her gut continues to heal from 8 years of malnutrition.  
Institutional behaviors: rocking, thumb sucking, repetitive movements, moaning, hands in front of her face, holding things to her ear, chewing on her tongue.  The head banging is almost completely gone now, praise God!  
New things she's learned:  How to come to standing holding onto something by herself.  How to sign "all done".  How to say/sign "again".  To sit indian style instead of "w" style.  That things are WAY more fun when you're not laying down!!  She's also learned to say "dada" and understands who "mommy" and "daddy" are.  She has learned to mash food with her tongue and to make new sounds (popping her lips, blowing raspberries, "lalalala", and "nnnnn").

Maia appears to be progressing developmentally as well.   When she first came home she would cry or whine/stim when going to sleep.  Now she lays in her crib and "chatters" to herself.  I almost missed this milestone, but it is HUGE.  Just as a baby moves from crying to chattering, Maia has done the same!  

She is also now fully involved in physical therapy, occupational therapy, and speech therapy.  We are working on tolerance of textures, building an arch in her hands, finger strength, core strength, and balance.  Also working on tracking, signing/speech, and feeding skills.

(She can do this without Craig's arm for support now - but we don't have a video of it yet.)


We have a long way to go, but we've come SO FAR already.  I'm super proud of her as she discovers who God intended her to be - a DAUGHTER who is LOVED.  As much as she is loved by us, she is so much more loved by her heavenly Father and I pray will all my heart that she will come to understand that with time.  

Maia (then Maria) at 19 pounds.  Estimated age 6. This was before the new director came to Pleven and started getting the kids help.

 
Maia (then Maria) June 2012, age 7.  After a hospital stay and some changes made by the new director.


 
Maia at pickup, age 8. 30 lbs.


Maia, 2 months home, age 8. 32 pounds.







Thursday, August 29, 2013

We Won't Be Shaken

Having a new child in the house has been interesting.  When that child has special needs things get even more interesting.  I compare the feeling to that of having a newborn in the house.  You have NO CLUE what you're doing.  You rely on instinct and hope that will be enough to not completely screw up your kid.  You find yourself crying for no reason at random times of the day.  Why?  There is no why.  There is no reason to cry other than just feeling completely weird.  Everything's new.  Everything's unknown.  And because there is no one RIGHT way to do this parenting thing, you're left to experiment and find a method that leads to some resemblance of sanity.



Yeah.  I think that comparison pretty much sums up the past month in our house.  This is hard, y'all. My fellow parents of children with special needs: can I get an "amen"?

We are staring into a void of unknowns.  There are tests, therapies, blood work, and more to cover all of our bases and get some idea of where things stand.  We have no idea how development works from here on out.  There's only so much damage a child can take before things slow down permanently.  It's all a guessing game.  Will she walk?  Probably.  Will she talk?  We hope so.  What will her mental capacity be?  We have no idea.  Will she live a normal life?  Not using the world's definition.  Will she ever live independently?  Not likely.

Maia and children like her daily remind us what REALLY matters in this world.  Things don't matter.  Money doesn't matter.  Perfection doesn't matter.  What matters is people.  Time.  Family. 



You see, God has made my calling clear.  It is to care for the three little people who spend most of their days trying to send me to the looney bin.  To show them daily that I love them regardless of whether they make it to the potty in time, keep their legos out from under my feet, or eat their dinner.  To teach them to love Jesus and people.  I will spend the next several years of my life preparing them to conquer the world.  To make a difference.  To live for Jesus.  But when they no longer need me to dress them and get them out the door in time, there will still be one.

One sweet daughter of God who will need a lifetime of care from her forever family.  One miracle who will give us the blessing and burden of practicing a lifetime of unconditional love.  Even if we are left with a lifetime of therapies and appointments.  If we are met with unexpected tests results that shake our core.  If we are left spending the rest of her life spoon feeding her and changing her diapers - bring it on.  What better opportunity to make up for lost time and prove just how much we love her?  What better opportunity to show her how much God loves her?  What better opportunity to show the world that THESE CHILDREN MATTER?  In light of that, the unknowns are nothing.

This world has nothing for me, this life is not my own.
I know You go before me and I am not alone.
This mountain rises higher, the way seems so unclear.
But I know that You go with me so I will never fear.
I will trust in You.

Whatever will come our way, through fire or pouring rain.
We won't be shaken.  No we won't be shaken.
Whatever tomorrow brings, together we'll rise and sing
That we won't be shaken.  No we won't be shaken.  

- Building 429.






Monday, August 5, 2013

HOME!


After a VERY long flight and lots of drama I will cover in another post, we finally made it HOME.


Maia is doing GREAT!  Other than a few issues with eating, you would have never guessed she just came home two days ago.  She's so laid back and really goes with the flow.  (Part of this is institutional, so we are working with her on getting involved and communicating with us in little spurts.)  She has figured out how to tell us when she wants more food and she will crawl up to us and put up her hands when she needs some extra attention.  


She has taken especially well to Nathan, and he to her.  Something tells me they will be best buds.  Alex is a little momma and tries to do everything for Maia.  She will bring her the bottle, share toys with her, and talk to her in a sweet little momma voice.  Maia, however, wants nothing to do with her yet, lol.  


In an effort to not throw the balance of the family off too much, we have been spending a lot of individualized time with our bios.  They are LOVING all of the extra attention.  This is easy to do now because Maia needs lots of time to herself to watch things from a distance.  When she starts getting involved more I'm sure we will have to find a balance.  Right now I spend about 5 minutes one-on-one with her every hour and that's as much as she can handle.  The rest of the time she's playing with the kids or watching them from across the room.  This gives me time to get some housework done and pull Nathan and Alex aside for extra loving.  



It almost feels like she's been here all along.  She really does fit right in.  

Nathan takes his job of "big" brother very seriously with Maia.  We were a little concerned that he would have trouble adjusting to her, but that hasn't been the case at all.  He is caring, gentle, and very understanding with her.  He has lots of questions about the noises and motions she makes, but they are just curiosity.  And I answer them at least 10 times a day.  lol.




We explained to Nathan on the first day home that Maia doesn't know how to be gentle yet.  Without knowing it, she will kick, hit, and scratch us if we aren't keeping a careful eye on her.  This is all institutional and has already greatly decreased.  We told Nathan that we have to teach Maia how to have "gentle hands" and "gentle feet" because she didn't learn how in the orphanage.  He will intentionally get close to Maia and when she reaches for him he will show her how to be gentle.  I'm so blow away by how understanding he is with her.

Alex wants to be involved so badly and (as always) will do everything Nathan does.  Even with her interactions with Maia.  She loves to make Maia laugh and get RIGHT in her face and talk to her, lol.

I know we are still in the honeymoon phase with this whole thing, but we are so blessed with how well all three kids are handling this transition.  God is definitely watching over us.  We are, however, getting a little stir crazy already.  Even Maia does better after a quick walk around the block to get out of the house.




Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Our Life via Instagram


Owls


And sunflowers


Snuggle time


And crafting time


Princesses 


And matching dresses


New additions



And firstborn grins



And lots and lots of love.





Thursday, July 18, 2013

Happy Fourth!

Four years ago yesterday I became a Mommy for the very first time.


Thanks to the amazing midwives at Charleston Birth Place we had the privilege of becoming parents to this healthy, perfect, chunk of a boy.  Never thought I could love someone that instantly.  


He has blessed our lives like we could never have imagined.  

His determined spirit is going to take him far in this life.  


We are so blessed to have been given the privilege to raise him up to be a great man of God.



We pray for you daily, big guy.  That God will bless your life immeasurably and that He will equip you to do more than we could ever ask or imagine for you.  Chase after God and He will give you everything you need.  And never forget that Mommy and Daddy love you always and forever.  Thank you for being the awesome boy you are.  We are so proud of you and can't wait to see what lies ahead for you!





Wednesday, July 10, 2013

This Man

That handsome man is my husband.


He is amazing.  

He loves us unconditionally

and works hard so I can stay home with the kids.

He didn't shun the orphan.

No, he embraced her as his own.



And he loves her deeply.

He takes out the trash and cleans the litter boxes.

He buys us pizza when I don't want to cook.

He mows the grass and makes late night milkshake runs.

He puts up with my moodiness

and my obsessive crafting.

He's my life partner.

And I definitely got the better end of this deal.


Love you Craig.  I'm blessed to live life with you.




Wednesday, July 3, 2013

A Year Ago Today


A year ago today we saw this face.


A year ago today I inquired about the sad little girl in the picture.

A year ago today this picture was sent back to me.


A year ago today I was told nobody was interested in her.  Nobody wanted her.

 

A year ago today I was told she had spent her ENTIRE 7 years of life without a family.


A year ago today our lives changed forever.


And so did hers.  Because a year ago today, halfway across the world, somebody WANTED her.  

And, in hopefully one month, she will come home forever. 




Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Allow Us To Introduce You To...

Maia Faith Moss


Born April 22, 2005


Found by her family on July 3, 2012


Met her family on March 4, 2013


Became part of a family on June 25, 2013!


Child of God

Justified and Redeemed


Holy


Chosen


Loved


Yep!  We passed court!